Robert A. Scharr, 97, of Falmouth died August 6.
He was born in Brooklyn, New York, and raised in Westwood, New Jersey.
Mr. Scharr went to Boston to further his education and while there in early 1942 met Lucille M. Giglio, the drummer in an all-girl band playing at Lindy’s Nightclub in Copley Square. She had begun playing the piano at age 3 and started playing the drums during World War II. Orchestra drummers were commonly men, and they were called off to war.
“I made more money playing the drums,” she said. When they met, Mr. Scharr told her that he used to play the drums, too.
It was Ms. Scharr who proposed: “She didn’t ask,” Mr. Scharr said during a February 2016 interview with the Enterprise. “She said, ‘I think we ought to get married.’ ”
Their relationship would be interrupted by a period of 2 1⁄2 years while Mr. Scharr served in the US Navy and traveled overseas to England. They sent each other letters during his deployment.
On D-Day on June 6, 1944, Mr. Scharr was aboard an ocean-going tug on duty as clerk and night lookout positioned in the crow’s nest so as to spot German U-boats. After his return home, the couple wed in Boston in November 1945.
The Scharrs lived in Randolph shortly after they married—and where their son was born in 1953—and, later, in Duxbury.
During his career, Mr. Scharr worked as a salesman for the Norfolk Southern Railroad and with other railroad companies. His wife continued to play music in the evenings, so after Mr. Scharr came home from work he would take care of their only child and then pick up Ms. Scharr after her shows with their son asleep in the car.
The couple settled in Falmouth in 2000 to be closer to their son and his family. In November 2014, they moved to Atria Woodbriar in Falmouth.
Three years ago Scharrs were featured in an article in the Enterprise for Valentine’s Day about four couples at Atria who were renewing their wedding vows. When his wife died just two months shy of her 100th birthday in August of 2017, they had shared 72 years of marriage.
He leaves their son, George J. Scharr and his wife, Suzan D. Scharr; three grandchildren, Kathryn E. Kerr, Caroline M. Buccino and Nicholas R. Scharr; a great-granddaughter; and extended family.
A funeral service was Friday, August 9, at Chapman, Cole & Gleason Funeral Home in West Falmouth, followed by burial at Massachusetts National Cemetery in Bourne.